My husband and I spent the last weekend by ourselves. With our older kids on a missions trip and our younger kids at my mom's, we enjoyed a few days of uninterrupted conversations, thinking only of our own agenda. No bickering, no noise, no spontaneous hoots or smacks on table (you've really got to stop that, Keygan!), no cooking, no laundry, no concern about time. We slept VERY late, ate WAY too much and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.
But here's the funny thing. I missed my kids. I missed the way Keeli pats my back when she walks by me on the computer. I missed Kelsi's knowing glances, catching the drift of what's REALLY going on. I missed Keygan's goofy, "Hey, Mom!" and Tanner's shy way of sneaking up for a hug. It seems not a week goes by where I don't long for more time to myself and more quiet, yet when I get it, I see it is overrated. Life is not greener on the other side. My kids aren't hampering my style, they are enriching it.
It's got me wondering this morning if wishing for something different makes us miss the blessings of TODAY. Getting the quiet I so longed for this weekend was bittersweet. I slept better, but I missed a lot of hugs and Keeli's gentle kisses. It was nice having to get only myself ready and out the door for church, but I felt old sitting there without any kids. My house may have been quiet, but it didn't have the life it normally has. So today, when things get tense at my house I'm going to look for the blessings, look for what I would miss if I would wish for something different.
What would you miss out on if you wished for something different?