What Makes a Marriage Christian?

We sat in a busy restaurant in downtown Lincoln, Nebraska. Though our relationship was only beginning, conversation came easily and somehow we got to the topic of what we hoped for in marriage. When I told him I wanted a husband who shared a commitment to God and His way of doing things, I saw a flash of recognition in his eyes. And my heart started beating faster. I mentioned scripture I based my opinions on and he nodded with a smile. Soon we were both rattling so fast we could hardly let the other finish before we had to chime in again.

My spirit screamed, "This one is different."

We spent hours in that restaurant, oblivious to the people coming and going around us, caught up in the excitement of having found someone who understood the importance of a Third Cord in a marriage, Almighty God. It was the beginning of a beautiful union, one that has not been perfect, always easy, or free from hurt and frustration, but one that has been touched by the power following God's plan provides.

What makes a marriage Christian?

Two people completely devoted to Christ FIRST and each other second (I can't say I've always liked being second fiddle, but it has proven to be in my best interests.).

A man and a woman who make it a priority to grow in their faith separately before they expect growth as a couple.

A commitment to obey the Bible, even those passages that seem harsh and unfair.

A willingness to set aside personal desires for the sake of the other, practicing sacrificial love modeled after our Lord.

A vow to stay together until death.

A determination to enjoy the gift of each other.

There have been many tense times and hurt feelings, but relying on God and His word has taught us much in working through them all. Truly His plan has turned out to be perfect, providing both security and great blessing in our marriage.

If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:10-12


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