When a compliment comes, she has a hard time believing it, often dismissing it as someone just trying to be nice. She's seen her reflection. She is fully aware of her weaknesses. She knows the truth.
But what makes her view of herself more accurate than that of another? Does her dismissal hurt the person giving the compliment? Does it make them feel stupid? Though she thinks of it as being humble, doesn't it require some selfishness to hang on to these impressions of herself? Does her warped thinking only keep her focused on herself?
Worst of all, it affects her marriage. She dismisses her husband just like the others and without realizing it, she puts him down. If she can't accept his view of her, can't believe he really means it, why should he keep trying? Will her continual inability to see what he does, tear him down? Does she make him feel like a failure when he can't make her feel beautiful? Will her twisted thinking drive a wedge between them?
But what if, what if she believed the nice things people said?
What would happen if she actually accepted it? Would she be more attractive because she was more at ease with herself and less needy? Would people be drawn to her because of her confidence? Would she be free to meet the needs of others better? Would life be more enjoyable? Would she stand taller, smile more, shine as God intended?
Pining away for what she wishes she could be prevents her from being who she is: a distinct, unique creation of an Almighty God. Does God really want His creations finding fault in themselves? What does it say to Him? Are we trying to tell Him He didn't do a good job?
It's not right. We must find a better way to live, fighting the temptation to put ourselves down. Will we bloom into our real selves if we CHOOSE to believe what others see? Are we depriving the world of God's specific design of us until we do?