LOVE IS PATIENT
Love swallows the snark when finding his garbage all over the house even though you’ve asked him a million times to take care of it himself. It quietly rinses the whiskers out of the sink every morning without ripping his head off. It remembers everyone has a bad day when he seems grouchy.
LOVE IS KIND
He may have the goofiest bed head you’ve ever seen, but it’s probably best not to point and laugh or call the neighbors over to see it. Mowing the lawn so he can catch the Royals game will show love more than a kiss on the cheek.
LOVE DOES NOT ENVY
Love does not wish to slap him when he eats whatever he wants without gaining an ounce. It resists the urge to kick him in bed as he sleeps soundly and you lay awake worrying about the money he spent on his new gun.
LOVE DOES NOT BOAST
There’s no need to announce in your Facebook status how you humiliated him in bowling or remind him every day of your superior golf score. You may think you’re doing well by not saying anything, but be careful not to give off the I know better vibe in your attitude. Men catch it every time.
LOVE IS NOT PROUD
Be willing to say I’m sorry. Admit your mistakes. When we are humble enough to do so, we encourage our husbands to behave likewise. Don’t allow dissension to invade your home just to say you were right. It’s not worth it.
LOVE IS NOT RUDE
Though he’s pushing you to get out the door, love doesn’t take its sweet time to aggravate him as much as he’s aggravating you. Love avoids the “Dutch oven” (farting under the covers and holding his head under) even when he deserves it.
LOVE IS NOT SELF-SEEKING
When filling your days with activities, love stops to consider what he may like or need. It doesn’t worry about being slighted, but takes into account the feelings of the other.
LOVE IS NOT EASILY ANGERED
You may have made it clear what you expect from him, but humans are pros at disappointing each other. He will forget. He will make you wonder if he heard anything you said. Don’t take his actions personally. Don’t believe the lie that he doesn’t care. Remember he is human and makes mistakes just like you.
LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS
Without a doubt, you will hurt each other, but don’t allow that hurt to linger, festering into a sore that is hard to heal. Forgive and forget. Believe he has your best interests at heart. Let each other off the hook and move past it.
LOVE DOES NOT DELIGHT IN EVIL
Though he may not daily praise your cooking, cleaning and laundry skills, taking on the attitude, “I’ll show him, I”ll just quit doing his laundry, cooking and cleaning!” is not an attitude of love. Love does the laundry (even when there’s skid marks in the underwear…) without complaining and without recognition.
LOVE REJOICES WITH THE TRUTH
Admitting you got a speeding ticket, that it is YOUR fault all the fish are dead, or that the baby has a huge bump on his head because you weren’t paying attention (even if the kid is showing the early signs he’s the next Evel Knievel…) build trust because you told the truth. Admitting guilt especially when it is hard, will help both of you grow to trust each other more and more.
LOVE ALWAYS TRUSTS
Assume the best about each other and over time that simple way of thinking helps you look at each other in a positive light all the time.
LOVE ALWAYS HOPES
What is life without hope? Pretty sucky. Life will have moments when it seems hopeless, but turn to God and he will see you through.
“Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him”
“…we rejoice in our sufferings because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.”
“For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.”
LOVE ALWAYS PERSEVERES
NEVER give up – the two of you will always come out better and stronger when you do not let life’s difficulties break you. This is a fact – it’s going to get worse. But stick with it and it will be better than you could ever imagine!!!
Congratulations, Jeff and Trisha! We're happy for you!