Saturday, May 17, 2008

Missing You

Dear Dad,

This is one of those times I feel your absence acutely. Your oldest grandchild graduates from high school this weekend and it saddens me to think you aren't here to see it. He's a good kid, Dad, with a kind heart and fun sense of humor like you. You would be proud.

I remember your excitement for my own graduation party. The new shed was built just in time. You spent hours checking on the hog and were happy to have a reason to celebrate with friends. It was a lot of work, but you seemed to enjoy it all. You always knew how to have fun. It was a really good time.

Now that it's my turn to celebrate my oldest graduating I can't help but think of you. I can see you offering me a peppermint at the ceremony. I can hear your laugh as you visit with friends and relatives at the party. I can hear you say, "It's too bad a person has to get full."

There will be a hole this weekend without you. Know that you are not forgotten. You are on our minds often. Just this week Kelsi wrote about you in a poem for school. Though you are not here with us physically, we carry you along. You are etched on our hearts. We miss you.


Susan said...


This was so beautiful! Your dad sounded like one very special man.

I'll look forward to the day I will have the honor of meeting him.

Meanwhile, I pray you will forever remember all those special moments you have treasured in your heart.

Congrats on your son's graduation!

Melanie said...

Tami, What a beautiful tribute to your father! He sounds like he was very special.

Congrats on your son's graduation! Wishing you a fun-filled weekend!

Lisa said...

The comfort I can find in these moments is sharing with them what part of their grandparent they share. Even though my kids were very young with little memories of my parents, I find characteristics of Mom and Dad in them. It amazes me it see my parents in my children. Make sure to always share your memories of your Dad, he will always be a part of who all of your children are.
PS Looking forward to sharing new memories on the Loper sidelines!!

Rachelle said...

Your dad is there in the things he taught you, that you now pass on to your kids. Every trait that makes you think of him, is a gift to them. Like...the peppermints Love ya!

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful relationship you had with your dad! Every girl should be so blessed. Congratulations to your son on his special day!! I pray his life will be filled with many blessings and many close relationships like the one you just described. Denise R.

Brenda said...


It is very hard not to have your dad. I lost mine when I was 23. My hard time is Father's Day. I plant a rose bush each year for him.

Living Beyond said...

Oh Tammy,

I'm so sorry that your Dad missed out on this. I know you have sweet memories but it truly isn't the same is it.

Praying that Jesus will continue to hold your heart tenderly.