You find yourself drawn to a person. There's a pull that makes you secretly hope to run into the them and live through the awkward conversations that eventually lead to a good relationship, but also a fear of letting them see who you truly are ('cause what if they don't like you once they really know you), which sometimes causes avoidance. You hide behind responsibilities and busyness so as not to seem too vulnerable or needy. And then there's the possibility the other person doesn't feel the same way about you. Ouch.
Maybe I think about these things too much, but I find it fascinating to ponder how relationships are formed. Don't you ever wonder about this stuff?
What makes us stick our neck out to approach another?
What have we missed out on because we weren't willing to put ourselves out there?
How are emotional ties built?
What makes you decide to risk it and pursue a person?
How do you know someone is safe?
What causes you to know you can trust someone?
Is that awareness built slowly through experience or do you just know?
Can you truly know another person's heart?
Is it possible to adequately express yourself to those you love or does their love for you make them believe the best about you even when they don't understand?
What makes you give someone the benefit of the doubt to believe the best about them?
Even after the relationships are formed, trusting someone always involves risk. People will let us down. They can't know everything that runs through our heads or our pasts that affect our responses. So why do we take the chance? What do we see in some people that gives us the go ahead?
I am drawn to people for many reasons:
The Spirit of God is evident in their life.
They are willing to ask the tough questions I mull over.
I admire something in them and wish I was more like them.
They think deeply and discuss issues articulately.
They are a blast to be around.
Conversation is easy and goes beyond surface issues.
They seem to respect and appreciate me.
What about you? What makes you take a chance on a person?