Monday, November 03, 2008

The Grace of Christian Marriage

1st Monday Every Month at Chrysalis

She's short with the kids and he doesn't wag a finger at her, doesn't even shoot a dirty look her way, but wanders over to give her a hug, saying nothing at all.

He still hasn't handled the problem she wanted fixed yesterday, but as he comes home looking exhausted, she holds her tongue.

He never asks, "Do I have any clean socks?"

He's late, again, and she swallows the snark.

She tells him, "You can do this. I believe in you. Don't sell yourself short."

He doesn't understand her pain, but brings her flowers any way.

She resists the urge to man bash with her friends.

He says, "Thank you. I appreciate you."

He's no Prince Charming and she's far from Miss America, yet they see a beautiful swan in each other because of the Holy Spirit's touch.

Life can be tough, and at times they're not that crazy about each other, but out of love for God they do what is right, following His command, and they get through another day, over a different hump and on to better times.

As they deepen their relationship individually with Jesus, they're naturally drawn to one another, causing their love and desire to grow.

Because they understand each other's commitment to Christ, the fear of what could happen to their relationship is diminished. He loves her. She trusts him. Their feelings are secure.

They are one before God and man.

Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors, waiting at my doorway. For whoever find me finds life and receives favor from the Lord.

Proverbs 8:34-35

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Denise said...

Great post.

Susan said...


Wow, that was soooooo good! What a gift you have.

Thank God for GRACE!!!!

e-Mom said...

Beautifully written, Tami. You two are so neat together. I feel like I'm a fly on the wall peaking into your most intimate moments.


MiPa said...

This is absolutely beautiful. I love the naturalness of grace in the is not forced it flows out of their relationship with Jesus. Oh that grace can be that natural and we can all be that secure in our marriages. Bless you!

Constance said...

So true! Our youngest daughter is getting married on Friday and they are young and so in love! It's hard sometimes to not think,

"OH baby, just YOU wait!"

Where does that cynacism come from? It comes from satan and also from the disappointment of unmet (sometimes unrealistic) expectations we have placed in the other person.

Love is a choice. It's choosing to "be and do" rather than seeking for self. There have been times in my own marriage that I didn't like Dave very much. Imagine my shock when God said,
"It's okay! There will be days like this".

What He didn't say was,
"Guess what? Dave doesn't like you today either!"

Which was probably true! Ha Ha!


Betsy Markman said...

Grace is such a beautiful thing. And it's far easier to want to receive it than to want to give it!

Oh Lord, forgive this hard little heart of mine...

Wanting to be more gracious,

Lynn said...


It is a treat to hop over here. When you write your MMposts they are so personal. I remember one when you wrote about talking under the covers. This one is just as warm and real.

Wonderful writing. You inspire me in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your beautiful marriage. Hugs.

The Surrendered Scribe said...

This is just exquisite to read. Beautiful. Thank you!