Wednesday, January 12, 2011

What Do You Do With the Ugly?

Now and then the ugly comes out at our house--a power struggle with a kid, an attitude gone awry, a bad scene you hope the neighbors didn't see or hear, some snippy words with the spouse. I'm assuming it happens in all homes (if not, PLEASE pass on your wisdom!), yet when it rears its head in mine, I don't like it. Not one little bit.

What do you do with the ugly?

I can spend the rest of the day analyzing my behavior, kicking myself around for a poor response, and to be honest, I often do, but what good comes from that? How is the ugly changed by me berating myself?

Do you know what diffuses the ugly?

When I admit my failure to myself, to God AND the party on the receiving end, the hurt is softened and healing begins. Though it's not fun to humble myself and own up to my part (and sometimes doesn't seem fair), it's crucial in maintaining healthy relationships.

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

Proverbs 11:2

What do you do with the ugly?

Perhaps if we show humility, we'll gain the wisdom to know.

As for me, here's my plan:

Admit to my part.
Ask forgiveness.
Forgive myself.
Move on, refusing to let Satan have a hold.

Tell me friends, what will you do with your ugly?

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Linda said...

I need to do better at this. I can't teach my daughter how to do this, if I don't know it myself. Lead by example.

Thanks for sharing even the ugly.

D.J. Hughes said...

This is a great post. I follow the same steps you've outlined here. I tend to over-analyze everything, but that includes my part in "the ugly." I do think it's important to acknowledge my part, both to God and the recipient.