Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.
1 John 3:18
I know she's struggling. I see it in her eyes every time she enters a room. I know what causes her pain and I ask about it, trying to give her a sounding board, but I sense she doesn't really want to talk about it. She does a tremendous job of pressing on, but the sadness, the anxiety just sits there behind her eyes. I see it and I want to help.
But how do I love, in action, when there is nothing I can do, no way for me to alleviate the pressure? I lack the resources, the knowledge, the ability to solve her problem. I'm not sure what she needs or what would ease her burden. I've prayed and prayed and prayed (so has she) and still there is no change in her situation. It seems to only get worse.
If it were me, I'd be discouraged, doubting God. She's much stronger than I am, but maybe she needs someone to come alongside and believe God can do the impossible for her. Maybe she needs someone else to wait on God, to expect Him to work. Maybe she needs another set of eyes to watch for His hand or notice her pain. She may need someone to hold fast to the faith when she doesn't have it in her anymore. Does the knowledge that someone remembers her often in their prayers, lift her spirits? Can it assure her she is not on this road alone?
All verbs. All action.
It doesn't seem like enough, but it's all I can do. I am with you, my friend, and I love you.