Monday, March 21, 2011

The Beauty of Simple Moments

I laid flat on my back on our bedroom floor, trying to catch my breath. Already tired from my workout at the gym, I came home to do a few more exercises to strengthen my core.

My husband walked in, leaned down on all fours over me and gently kissed my lips.

"How are you this morning?" he asked, his nose half an inch from mine, his voice low, hampering my attempt to lower my heart rate.

"Fine. Just need to finish these up."

He got up, settled himself on the bed and asked, "What do you have to do?"

Feeling a little self-conscious, I went through my routine while he watched. His mouth curved ever so slightly, his eyes sparkled, his entire being rapt in my little exercises. It was the same look I get when he's listening to me go on and on about something, a special attention to every word. He seemed genuinely delighted, delighted in me, his sweaty, smelly wife with flat hair and no makeup, performing a mundane daily task.

The way he looked at me made me feel as giddy as a young girl in love and I kept going through my motions to extend our flirty game. I saved the most awkward for last, a neck exercise that resembles a strutting chicken, knowing he would find it hysterical. He didn't disappoint, bursting into fits of laughter as I tried to demonstrate.

Though I gave him a firm slap on the rear, my heart treasured the goofy, ordinary encounter, the reminder from his delighted eyes that I mean something to him. He does a great job communicating his love for me, but simple moments like these leave no doubt.

Are you catching the simple moments in your house, friends? Are you seeing that look in his eye? Do you notice the touch on your back as he walks by? Are you enjoying your inside jokes? Do you share those knowing smiles? Do you sense the comfort of the other as you curl up on the couch watching a movie? Those beautiful snippets of time, those daily reminders of your togetherness, bind you and establish a lifetime of connection. Don't miss them. Cherish them.

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Miriam Pauline said...

"Those beautiful snippets of time, those daily reminders of your togetherness, bind you and establish a lifetime of connection."

Well said my friend. I am convinced that our inside jokes, flirting exchanges and daily routines are more important to the strength of our marriage than any amount of expensive interventions could be. If we lose the daily moments of love, we are in real trouble.

Lisa Maria said...

I really loved this post. Especially since, it took years for our relationship to become this intimate. For a while it was like we were living in different worlds.. he with his job and outside the home interests, me locked away from the world raising our children. Then, our world got pulled out from beneath us and in struggling to pick up the pieces, we've managed, by God's grace, to build something better and more beautiful than we had. NOW, I can treasure these special moments you speak of.. thank you for this wonderful reminder of all I have to be grateful for!

Love & Blessings

Bobbi said...

Thank you for reminding me to enjoy the simple, often considered mundane, things! Smiles and love to you today!

Mac an Rothaich said...

Oh I started to grin early on in your post as I knew the type of moment you where going to describe. Just yesterday I found the look to much when I was trying to exercise and had to stop... I feel bad now... I will try not to be so embarrassed next time. I DO love his looks. I hear you about the simple, simply beautiful, moments!

A Stone Gatherer said...

Yes to all! I love our silly, simple moments!

e-Mom said...

Giggling under my breath... a super post, Tami.

Gosh, I feel like I've been peeking through the window at one of your marriage's sweetest, most private moments. Lucky me!

Funny, over at Chrysalis, I talked about clothes and appearance, and in many ways, I realize e-Dad likes me best in my sweats! (Although he loves it when I dress up too.) I think it makes him feel like HE's been working out, especially when he's too busy to exercise. Guys are funny...

(((Hugs))) ღ

Alicia The Snowflake said...

Oh this was beautiful! I'm always going 90 miles an hour. I'm sure I often miss those little moments. Thanks for the great reminder to slow down!

Lynn said...

Loved, loved, LOVED this Tami. Girl, you and I could be sisters. These ordinary moments are what make our lives filled with joy.

Beautifully written by the way. Great way to start my day. Thank you my friend. Have a great week. Lynn

Guiding Light said...

What a wonderful post, and reminder! Thank you! And, thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. Blessings.

Wife of Rob said...


LOVED this! You wrote so well about the playfulness in marriage...which we so often forget about in the day to day "stuff" that we get so caught up in. I'm with E-Mom on this one...I know that you two must be so cute together! I would try and mimic this, but Rob an i go to the gym together...and I'm not so sure that the other people there would appreciate this as much as the two of us ;o) (giggle giggle)

{{Big Hugs}}

Cin said...

Love Love Love this!
To my eyes and heart it is one of the most beautiful moments between a husband and wife.
Thank you for sharing your love!