our brothers in Christ."
~ Heather Arnel Paulsen ~
Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart
So would you kick me if I admitted I wanted to yawn at this week's quote? It's not that I don't think modesty is important. I wholeheartedly agree it is an area we need to pay close attention to. I argued with my teenage daughter just yesterday about what she was wearing and made her change her shirt before we left. It's just that this seems like a no-brainer. Don't the women who identify themselves with this group already know this?!
I was more intrigued by the title of the book this quote came from--Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart. How do we keep ourselves emotionally pure? What does that mean for us?
I have male friends, most married, many to good friends of mine. I have shared some pretty personal stuff with a few of them and their wives. They are easy to joke around with and have helped me through hard situations. I have cried with and prayed with a couple of them. I like them, I really do. They are my friends and we connect.
But I wouldn't think of spending time with them apart from our spouses, even for a short period of time. We have to guard ourselves from becoming too emotionally connected. What if one of them experiences marital problems? I could be a sympathetic ear, perhaps even advise him on the mind of a woman, but is it healthy for me to spend time with him? Would it be easy to seek too much comfort in me? Is it right to put him in that situation?
We must not allow ourselves to get into dangerous territory in the name of friendship. If we are married, our relationships with the opposite sex should be diligently kept in check. Friends can turn into lovers. I don't think I'm paranoid. Why else would Internet affairs be rampant? It's not a physical thing, it's an emotional attachment.
Will you join me in being especially careful in your friendships with men? Can you show emotional modesty as well as physical modesty? When in doubt about what to do, don't do it, or at least send your husband instead.
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